We all have within us a series of strengths or resources that sustain us in difficult or critical moments. They are like rocks to lean on to get ahead. An expert in transpersonal psychology reveals the keys to discover and cultivate those traits of our deep self
“We are a wonderful coherent unit in which the four key pieces that make up the human ‘puzzle’ – the mind, the sensitivity, the deep self and the body – are harmoniously interrelated, keeping a very close connection with each other. Each one influences and affects the others, ”says Enrique Martínez Lozano.
Martínez Lozano is a psychotherapist, sociologist and theologian , who develops workshops and therapies based on transpersonal psychology. In them he combines psychological and spiritual content, meditation and learning, based on his own experience.
“The core of transpersonal psychology could be expressed like this: we are more than the mind, more than the self, more than the person our mind thinks we are. We are consciousness itself, a conscious presence experiencing itself through temporary forms such as our psychophysical body ”, he points out.
“If classical psychology emphasized the strictly psychological, transpersonal psychology makes us see the need for a deeper understanding of who we are. Because only thanks to it is harmony and fullness possible ”, he adds.
Transpersonal Psychology for Everyday Life
From this perspective, Enrique Martínez proposes in his latest book ‘Transpersonal Psychology for Everyday Life’ a series of reflections and practices to approach our two dimensions, the psychological (or personality) and the spiritual (or identity), some of which they can be especially helpful in living without suffering in the “COVID-19 era.”
For example, it invites us to ask ourselves : What are our strengths, “the rock” on which we lean in times of difficulty or suffering, our inner support points? What parts of us support us, when we have had a crisis, and help us to move forward …?
” Strengths or inner support points are solid points in our psyche, resources on which to support ourselves to get ahead when difficulties arise in our lives,” he explains.
“Those interior strengths or points of support are like rocks to which we can turn when we experience setbacks, dislikes, illnesses, age ailments, crises of all kinds,” he says.
He assures that if we exercise ourselves to rely on them, we will notice that our “abilities” grow to face, with greater peace and strength, adversity and everything that can make us suffer.
Martínez describes some of those “interior rocks or points of support” , of those traits or elements of our psychological identity , that “we need to know, believe in them, feel them slowly inside us, let them impregnate us and choose to live them in a way conscious and voluntary ”.
They are as follows :
Acceptance of what happens to us
“Accepting does not mean resigning or giving up, but simply recognizing what there is. Accepting it radically changes our relationship with the problem. In this way we will be able to begin to rest, because we will have stepped into our truth, and the truth is always rest ”, he says.
The certainty that there is a way out
“Whenever we have come out of a problematic situation, without knowing where we have supported ourselves, it is likely that we have done so in this certainty (that there is a way out). Because even in the midst of the greatest difficulty a voice appears within us that tells us “You will get out of this,” he points out.
The force of life
“The so-called inner strength is closely related to the previous certainty. Even in the worst moments, there is “something” in us that continues to support and encourage us: it is life, inhabited by a powerful dynamism and meaning in the depths of our body, seeks to get ahead, despite all setbacks ” , considers.
The psychotherapist explains that “it is a deep feeling, not easy to understand rationally, which assures us that everything has a reason for being. In this sense, the feeling of confidence is not the voice of frivolity but of the deepest wisdom ”.
Loyalty to oneself
“It is a very strong point of support for certain types of difficulties. It allows us to free ourselves from other tyrannies – our own needs and fears, the image or the opinion of others – and introduces us to a space of rest, freedom, assertiveness and respectful coherence ”, he says.
The wisdom of not shrinking
“Although we accept something painful, we do not reduce ourselves to it, because we are always ‘more than’ our difficulty, illness or suffering. In addition to the fact that this is true because our life is never reduced to something that can happen to us, the recognition of that ‘more what’ is restfully liberating and mobilizing, and moves us to what we can do ”, he points out.
For this psychotherapist, gratitude “is a force that takes us out of self-centeredness, causing us to distance ourselves from our small interests and opening us to a deep understanding that, ultimately, everything is a gift.”
Free and unconditional love
Enrique Martínez refers to love, in the double direction of offered and received, because “both when we feel loved and when we love someone unconditionally, that love becomes in us a ‘rock’ of solidity and courage, which makes you experience the extraordinary force that accompanies it. “
The experience of meaning
“Having a“ what for ”means having discovered a meaning for one’s life: when we have it, it infuses us with such dynamism that we will be able to face everything”, assesses this expert, who highlights that the psychiatrist Víktor Frankl founded a school of psychotherapy ( logotherapy) based on the same experience that helped him survive in a Nazi concentration camp, “discovering a meaning to life”, in the certainty that the experience of that meaning is healing.
Come to the present
For this psychotherapist “we are made in such a way that we can always face what we have to live in the present moment. On the contrary, when we leave the here and now, impotence and anguish appear .
“To ward off the” ghosts of an imagined future “(since the future does not exist and can only be imagined ) that make us suffer, the only sensible thing is to” put light “so that they fade, and that light consists of staying in the present , only at this very moment ”, he concludes.